Feel free to choose your career

The career pressure by parents is one of the most common issues that many children face during their upbringing. Parents wants their children to succeed and lead a better life than they did, that is one of the reason they try to mold them into certain professions that they believe will bring them success and financial stability. However, the pressure put by parents can be repressive and can have severe consequences on their children's mental health and well-being.

Is it necessary to keep high expectations from your children?

The first thing is to understand that parents have high expectations from their children, and it is perfectly normal. However, the problem arises when these expectations are unrealistic and are based on the beliefs of parents. For instance, if a parent is a doctor, they may want their child to become a doctor as well, without considering the child's interests and aptitude.

Parents may put undue pressure on their children to excel in their studies and extracurricular activities. They may also compare their children to their siblings or peers, which can create a sense of inadequacy in them. This can lead to anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues that can have long-term affects.

Children who feel pressured by their parents to choose a certain career path may lose interest and motivation in their studies. They may also develop a sense of resentment towards their parents, which can strain their relationship.

So, what can parents do to avoid putting too much pressure on their children?

The first step is to understand that their children are unique individuals with their own interests and skills. Parents should take some time to communicate to their children and understand their passions and aspirations. They should encourage their children to explore different career options and support them in pursuing their dreams.

Parents should also avoid comparing their children to others. Each child is unique, and their achievements should be celebrated based on their individual merits. Parents should focus on their children's strengths and encourage them to work on their weaknesses, instead of pressurizing them to be perfect.

Parents can also play a vital role in providing emotional support to their children. They should be there for their children when they need them, listen to their problems, and provide guidance and advice. They should also create a safe and supportive environment where their children can express themselves freely without fear of judgment.

Conclusion 

Parents need to understand that their children's career choices should be based on their interests and skills, not their own  beliefs. They should encourage their children to explore different career opportunities and provide emotional support to them. Parents should avoid putting unnecessary pressure on their children, as it can increase mental pressure and bring their morals down. By creating a supportive and nurturing environment, parents can help their children achieve success and lead a fulfilling life.

Anishka Maheshwari (BJMC-II)